November 19, 2014 9:00 pm -


When a customer at a restaurant complains to management that the gay man who served them was too much of a “f*ggot” for them to enjoy their meal, the last thing those people deserve is an apology – but that’s what a customer received at a Houston, Texas restaurant last Wednesday. Nineteen-year-old Blake Butler, a server…


D.B. Hirsch
D.B. Hirsch is a political activist, news junkie, and retired ad copy writer and spin doctor. He lives in Brooklyn, New York.

39 responses to Customer Complains Waiter Is Too Much Of A ‘Fagg*t’; Restaurant Apologizes To Customer

  1. tracey marie November 19th, 2014 at 9:20 pm

    This is a small chain, they had a racist incidence not to long ago.

    • whatthe46 November 19th, 2014 at 9:43 pm

      wow. and as for as him coming out to his parents because he didn’t want them to see it on the news, well, what? first off, if he’s that flamboyant, i’m sure the parents already knew, second, he was the one who brought it to the media’s attention. anyway, the manager was wrong.

      • tracey marie November 19th, 2014 at 9:45 pm

        this chain is established in marginal neighborhoods full of rednecks. lot’s of uneducated people

        • whatthe46 November 19th, 2014 at 10:38 pm

          sounds like it.

  2. arc99 November 19th, 2014 at 9:37 pm

    Question: What’s the difference between Texas and hell?

    Answer: You have the option to leave Texas if you want to.

    • tracey marie November 19th, 2014 at 9:39 pm

      broad strokes there…I am living in Texas 🙁

      • arc99 November 19th, 2014 at 9:43 pm

        maybe there are wonderful experiences to be found in Texas. it’s just that personally, I never hear about them.

        as the saying goes, all I know is what I read in the papers

        • tracey marie November 19th, 2014 at 9:46 pm

          There are, I am not from here and I will not die here. 20 years ago it was blue, and better.

        • burqa November 19th, 2014 at 10:56 pm

          Kinky Friedman – great Texan. Janis Joplin and Buddy Holly were Texans. Molly Ivins was a stone gas – and a Texan.
          As for experiences, I’ve always wanted to go to Austin when they have the music festival there, or go to Willie Nelson’s annual birthday bash. There’s also a city on the coast whose name escapes me at the moment, that is said to have a spectacular Mardi Gras.

      • burqa November 19th, 2014 at 10:50 pm

        This is the land of broad strokes.

        • tracey marie November 19th, 2014 at 11:13 pm


  3. shatto November 19th, 2014 at 9:48 pm

    Okay, let us analyze:
    1. Servers demeanor offends customer.
    2. Customers demeanor when complaining offends server.
    3. Liberals demeanor while defending server …. will make
    4. Server carry a permanent demeanor of self-righteous victim.

    • tracey marie November 19th, 2014 at 9:54 pm

      or bigotry and ignorance is wrong…but what would you know you agree with the phobe

    • Tommy6860 November 19th, 2014 at 10:03 pm

      Permanent demeanor of self-righteous victim?

      Wow, what a privilege it must be as a bigot that never undergoes the scrutiny of their privacy and being. You can shove the oh so real hate filled self-righteous demeanor of yours where the sun doesn’t shine. It is the type of expectations from idiots like you, that those who are demeaned are defended by others who should just shut up.

      • tracey marie November 19th, 2014 at 10:07 pm

        I do not understand how these types choose to spend their lives hating others, how exhausting and ignorant

        • Tommy6860 November 19th, 2014 at 10:08 pm

          It’s painful to read words like from this idiot, seriously. Sometimes I can just cry.

          • tracey marie November 19th, 2014 at 10:11 pm

            When I hear it online I assume a lot of it is for attention from pathetic lonely people. When I witness and hear it in person then I have to weep

        • burqa November 19th, 2014 at 10:44 pm

          Had the waiter been a Christian some around here would have the opposite opinion.
          Me, I don’t have to worry about looking hypocritical. I oppose bigotry regardless of the target. I oppose bigotry directed against gays, immigrants, Christians, Jews, Muslims, African Americans, etc. If I saw people consistently hating on atheists I’d oppose that, too.
          I think being consistent, rather than selective, is the way to go.

          I have never heard anyone say there is too much kindness in the world
          I have never heard anyone say there is too much forgiveness in the world
          I have never heard anyone say there is too much love in the world.

          • tracey marie November 19th, 2014 at 11:14 pm


          • Spirit of America November 19th, 2014 at 11:21 pm

            Good attitude

          • Kick Frenzy November 20th, 2014 at 1:32 am

            Why does every comment you make start with assuming there are “some around here” who would think it was fine if it was happening to Christians?
            I can’t say I see anyone railing against Christians in that manner “around here”.

            What I see are mostly liberals who want people, in general, to be treated with respect, fairness and equality… regardless of any details.

          • rg9rts November 20th, 2014 at 7:12 am

            Too much kindness??? The gopee thinks that is what is wrong with the US

          • Bunya November 20th, 2014 at 2:35 pm

            “Had the waiter been a Christian some around here would have the opposite opinion.”
            Funny you should mention that. When my daughter was in college, she worked as a waitress. One day, a co-worker who just happens to be gay, had a very demanding customer who refused to leave a tip.
            Now, if she didn’t want to leave a tip, she didn’t have to. She could have simply walked out without saying a word and nobody would’ve gotten hurt. But no. Being a “good Christian”, she felt it was her duty to chastise this poor guy for what she considered an evil choice. She left a note on the receipt that said homosexuality is an intrinsic evil against God, and leaving a tip could be construed as her, “approving of such deviant, sinful behavior.”
            Y’know, I’ve never heard of one case – not one – of a gay person refusing to leave a tip because he/she thought heterosexuality was nasty.

    • fahvel November 20th, 2014 at 2:05 am

      seems you spelled your monicker wrong – should be an i so your hateful words come from the proper place.

      • shatto November 20th, 2014 at 2:33 am

        So, it is alright for a gay to flaunt himself in front of a customer, but offensive for the customer to not love him for it?
        The moniker comment is infantile, juvenile, banal and below you.

        • whatthe46 November 20th, 2014 at 2:50 am

          where did you read that he was flaunting his “gayness?” the fact that he was gay is what bothered the customer.

          • demcat49 November 20th, 2014 at 8:53 am

            it was always my custom to approach my tables as a waiter and say ‘hi. my name is paul and i am FAAAbulously gay!!! oooo! sweetie, love your shoes!!! wanna have bathroom sex? today’s specials are….’
            give me a frigging break. the customer made an assumption based on his/her perceived stereotypes. plus, they were probably hoping to get a free meal out of it. notice it apparently didn’t bother them until it came time to pay.

          • burqa November 20th, 2014 at 10:48 pm

            Good points.
            I would add that since this was the only complaint reported, and since it is doubtful the waiter acted in such a fashion just for this one customer, that the one with the problem is the customer. The manager, too, come to think of it, for not having the spine to stand up for his employee.

        • Carla Akins November 20th, 2014 at 5:35 am

          There are many flamboyant men, that are not gay – it’s just part of their personality. Is the customer such a pussy, that he can’t approach management and simply request a new server? You don’t have to provide reasons, even if it is Texas.Lots of assumptions here along with top notch douche-baggery.

          • shatto November 20th, 2014 at 6:52 pm

            Absolutely Carla. It isn’t what you say, it is how you say it. Apparently, the server said-acted in an offensive manner.
            As we all have.

        • rg9rts November 20th, 2014 at 7:09 am

          Customer has option of thinking with their feet……and satisfy your rightwingnut sensibilities ,,,,take their wallet with them

      • rg9rts November 20th, 2014 at 7:08 am

        O to I after H

    • causeican November 20th, 2014 at 7:08 am

      Can I go into this restaurant and complain because my server is too Christian acting or to Arabic looking. Where does it stop?

      • rg9rts November 20th, 2014 at 7:11 am

        This clown should go to some of the better NYC delis where insult is refined to an art form LOL

  4. burqa November 19th, 2014 at 10:48 pm

    I don’t see how any gay person could be so “flamboyant” as to be offensive.
    The customer was a creep and the manager should have stood up for the young man. By giving satisfaction to the bigot, it just reinforces the feeling of the bigot that he was right.
    The manager should have not just stood up for the kid, but also told the customer that since he was so offended, the manager would fix that by refusing service to the customer in the future, to prevent a recurrence.

    Anyone got a link to a SNL clip from the “The Effeminate Heterosexual” bit?

  5. rg9rts November 20th, 2014 at 7:07 am

    Texas, need anymore be said??? In the rest of the civilized the bigot would have been given the option of going elsewhere

  6. searambler November 20th, 2014 at 8:53 am

    Everything’s bigger in Texas. Including the homophobic assholes. And that manager needs a class in employee relations.

  7. Bunya November 20th, 2014 at 2:39 pm

    Whether the poor man was fired or he quit voluntarily, after the embarrassment he suffered at the hands of an imbecile, it’s no wonder he’s no longer employed at that establishment.

  8. shulkman November 25th, 2014 at 4:31 pm

    Screw Texas. I won’t move there, won’t visit there, won’t even have a layover there. I won’t have a dime of my money be spent there. People shouldn’t have to live in such conditions.